Emotionally strong people do not just drop from mars, they are real people like you and me. A strong person is born out of finding strength in the struggle of life. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade out of it.
I need you to take a step back and realize that you become strong emotionally through the challenges that you overcome and your strength is built in this process. I know right now, you might be saying, “…but this is hard and it hurts and I do not think I can go on”. I need to interrupt you and let you know that you are strong enough to survive this even if you do not feel you can.
Let us imagine baking a loaf of bread and label the heat used as the “challenges of life”. If it takes 40 minutes to bake the bread but the bread was brought out of the oven in 10 minutes because it couldn’t stand the heat. My question is, ” What would be the outcome of the bread?”, it will be half-baked right?.
This is the same with life and its challenges, without these life challenges, we will not be built up emotionally, socially, spiritually, etc in life. We would come out as nicely baked bread.
Let us take a quick dive into the secrets of emotionally strong people;
1. They Do Not Give Up
Emotionally strong people have resilience, this does not mean they do not have the feeling of giving up but these people consider challenges as opportunities for growth. So stare adversity in the face and fight!. Fight for the future you want!
There is a quote that says “When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that tide will turn”
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2. They Quit Sometimes
Emotionally strong people also quit sometimes. There is a saying that “failure is often the pathway to success”. You quitting a particular project, job venture, etc. doesn’t make you weak, in fact, it can be seen as a strength. It takes courage and strength to leave what isn’t good or what isn’t working for you and chase after another goal.
This takes me to my next point, after quitting, it’s important not to stay idle, you need to have a “board meeting with yourself” and set new goals, new dreams, new plans, etc. Sometimes, you don’t have to quit your dreams, you only need to quit your strategy and get new ones that will lead you to your dreams.
You can also cope emotionally when mourning the death of a dream, goal, or strategy by joining a support group, getting self-help resources, speaking to a mentor, changing your mentality, etc.
For emphasis’s sake, not everyone succeeds at their first or second venture. So it is okay to quit and be happy with your decision, but do not stay down, draw strength, re-strategize and move on.
3. They Put Themselves First
Emotionally strong people put themselves first! Yes!. They are very selfish about protecting their peace and sanity, so anything that doesn’t serve them is not allowed in their sphere.
So, this is my advice to you, It is high time you became selfish! Yes! You are worthy to be loved and treated well, so it is definitely time to put yourself first. Take out time and list out all the people and things that don’t serve you, that doesn’t build you up emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc, and abandon those things. Then start identifying those things and people that are edifying, that benefits you and draws you closer to your goals and immerse yourself in them
Respect yourself enough to choose you first, this will invariably make you an emotionally strong person.
It’s all in the baby steps and in the words of Steven Furtick “…Surprise, you are stronger than what you thought you were, you weren’t ready for it but didn’t kill you...”
In conclusion, emotionally strong people do not give up, they also know when to quit what isn’t working, and they consistently put themselves first. If you are experiencing hard times, take it one step at a time, don’t quit but if you must quit, don’t stay idle, start working on a new plan or strategy and always put yourself first.
You will eventually survive the hard times and you will be in a better place and space. You will also find that are becoming an emotionally strong person.